Feeling Drained? 9 Ways to Add in Alone Time as a Highly Sensitive Introvert

Feeling Drained? 9 Ways to Add in Alone Time as a Highly Sensitive Introvert

As a highly sensitive introvert, I require my share of alone time to recharge and feel like I'm my best self. Taking time away and carving out time to just be alone and retreat is something I need regularly in my life to renew my energy, relax and clear my head, and do the things I enjoy doing solo. 

There have been times when life has gotten busy and crazy and I couldn't take my much needed "me time" and boy does it show! I feel drained, I'm moody and cranky, short-fused and irritable, and I even feel a little bummed out and depressed. 

No good.

10 Signs You Might be a Highly Sensitive Introvert

10 Signs You Might be a Highly Sensitive Introvert

So, you think you might be a highly sensitive introvert?

 

You’re not alone.

 

So many people have discovered and came to terms with their innate way of being.

It’s not a flaw or defect. It’s how you are and there’s nothing wrong with it.

 

In a world that bases everything off of extroverted personalities and behaviors, us HSI’s need to embrace and educate ourselves about our unique traits so we can better coexist in a world that believes we should be people we’re not, or will never be.

HOW TO LET GO WHEN YOU REALLY WANT TO KEEP HOLDING ON

HOW TO LET GO WHEN YOU REALLY WANT TO KEEP HOLDING ON

Letting go is not easy, I don’t care what anyone says.

 

Just let it go. You’ll be fine. What’s the big deal?

 

The big deal is letting go of something you’ve been holding onto for so long isn’t just a throw it away and wipe your hands clean kinda thing.

 

Naturally, you want to hold tight to things that you think make you feel safe.

 

A sense of control in things. A relationship that’s over but you’re afraid you won’t find someone else. Negative thoughts running your mind that you’ve believed for so long that they’re now true, in your mind. Lack of confidence in yourself because you haven’t gotten to a place you thought you should be in life, haven’t gotten the results you’ve been striving for, or haven’t gotten to a weight you think you’ll feel better at. You haven’t gotten to that level you think you have to be at to solve all your problems.

 

It’s not uncommon AT ALL. You’re not alone. You’re not a weirdo!

 

It’s easy to get discouraged when you're trying so hard to ditch your bad habits and things aren’t, seemingly, going the way you want them to be going.

Why trying to reach PERFECTION is actually holding you back

Why trying to reach PERFECTION is actually holding you back

I always thought I had to reach this perfect state of mind.

No matter how far I'd come, in my mind, it wasn't 'far enough.' I needed to be more, I needed to do more, I needed to have my situation pulled together more.

I was never satisfied with where I was because I was always pressuring myself to 'keep doing more.'

What really changed my perspective was the realization that we're ALWAYS growing. We never reach that perfect place. We get to one level, then the next, then the next, until the day we leave this earth. It never ends–unless we CHOOSE for it to end and stop growing.

I never quite realized how much time I was wasting not appreciating where I was at and how far I'd come–I was too focused on where I (thought I) needed to be.

How can you even enjoy your life if all you do is focus on how far you 'should' be and where you need to get to?

3 Steps to Stopping Negative Self-Talk

3 Steps to Stopping Negative Self-Talk

Self-talk can impact your confidence and how you act or interact with yourself and with others around you.

If it's NEGATIVE self-talk, it causes you to view everything negatively and feel like everything and everyone is out to get out or is against you.

It causes stress, anxiety, hopelessness, and depression.

Sadly, it's very common for women to be harder on themselves than they should be.

It begins to become VERY EASY to believe the negative things we say to ourselves because we say them so much that they become our reality.

This is such a damaging way of thinking–it can hurt you and your self-esteem and self-worth, it can affect your social life and how you interact with family and friends and it can be toxic for your relationships when you're constantly hating on yourself to your significant other. You wind up pushing them away because you think that THEY ALSO think the same negative things about you.

NOT GOOD, MY DEAR!

So, you're probably wondering... where do I even start?