We're coming up on all the holiday festivities and we'll soon be surrounded by obscene amounts of food. It's inevitable. 

But what about all those nagging feelings about how much you can eat, or what you should or shouldn't be eating? Maybe portion control or "being good" in tempting situations isn't your strong point. 

The holiday season is meant to bring joy and happiness, being thankful and appreciating our family and friends–but what it really has turned into is stressing over what gifts to buy everyone, being strong and resisting any tempting food, and trying not to gain 20 pounds over a 2 month span!

You're not alone, I don't know many people this doesn't happen to–a minor struggle to some, but still a struggle. 

Every year is a new chance to "do it right" and not go overboard into a food coma. You try to bring a healthy dish but wind up having a small helping of it and proceed to load your plate with every other carb, fat and sugar-loaded option that is available.

You eat a little too much of something off limits and then it's all downhill from there. You might as well just continue piling it all in, because what's the point now? You've already ruined everything! Then you're so upset and disappointed about how much you ate and how stuffed you are that you keep eating to avoid the crappy way you feel about yourself.

What if this year you were better equipped with the right tools to still be able to enjoy yourself without totally overdoing it?
Imagine sitting down at the table for dinner and enjoying what you have on your plate, eating a satisfying portion of it, accepting it and moving forward to rejoicing in and being thankful for your family and the time you're sharing with them...

How would that feel? Awesome, right? An overwhelming feeling of freedom maybe?

Luckily, you can have a healthy relationship between yourself and food!

I struggled with all these issues for a long time. I couldn't control myself around food, I would eat and eat until I was about to burst, then wouldn't be able to enjoy myself for the remainder of the night due to extreme fullness and discomfort. During my years battling bulimia I would either sneak to the bathroom or leave to relieve myself.

After that the "shame-regret-now it's time to be good forever" cycle would start. 

I can happily say I am free from bulimia and my dysfunctional relationship with food and now focus on enjoying myself, my family and loved ones, and even food!

How did I do it? I forgave myself for the mistakes I made in the past and gave myself permission to enjoy myself.

You see, Thanksgiving is a day of indulgence and it's OK to allow yourself to do so. Give yourself a break from all the restrictions and labels you put on food, it's usually the main trigger for overeating.

One day of indulging on a little more portions than you're used to or on food you rarely eat isn't going to make you gain weight or throw you off track–unless you continue to spiral out of control for days, weeks or months.

Allowing yourself to indulge on the holiday isn't weakness or lack of willpower, it's called being normal and it's OK! 

Life is about balance and if you can't let yourself loose once in awhile then you're more likely to keep repeating bouts of overeating or binging you'll need to recover from.

This Thanksgiving, try giving yourself the gift of acceptance and forgiveness. Go into the holidays knowing you're never going to be perfect (or eat perfect) and make the day about enjoyment instead of restrictions, guilt and regret.

There are some more helpful tips in my free guide Feel Sane Around Food. These are tips and tools I've personally used to break free from my unhealthy relationship with food and even helped change the way I think about food. You can grab your copy here.

I hope you will put some of these tips into action and begin taking steps to heal yourself from years of struggling and suffering around food.

Have a very happy and healthy Thanksgiving!

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